For years, I tried to fit my brain into structures that weren’t built for it. I’d force myself into rigid schedules, mimic other people’s productivity styles, and wonder why what worked for them didn’t work for me. It wasn’t that I wasn’t capable. It’s that the way I process, create, and focus simply didn’t match the environments I was in. Now, as a coach, I hear the same frustration from my clients, especially neurodiverse professionals who’ve spent their entire careers adap

Not long ago, I coached a client who said, “If I could just stop being so hard on myself, I think I’d actually make more progress.” It made me pause because that’s the paradox so many high-achievers face. The same drive that fuels their success often turns inward as self-criticism. I’ve experienced that too. When you care deeply about your work, it’s easy to believe that self-pressure equals progress. But over time, that pressure becomes noise, drowning out creativity, confid

There’s a moment I hear often in coaching sessions: “I’ve done everything I thought I was supposed to do… so why do I feel stuck?” Sometimes it comes after years of steady success. Other times, it follows a big transition such as a promotion, a company change, or burnout recovery. I’ve felt that crossroads myself, when your work no longer feels like you , yet you can’t see what comes next. It’s unsettling because you’ve always been the one with direction, plans, and momentum.

There was a time when you didn’t second-guess yourself so much. You spoke up in meetings, made decisions quickly, and trusted your instincts. But lately, that confidence feels harder to access. Maybe you’ve had a tough year - a reorg, a new boss, or constant changes that left you questioning your footing. Or maybe nothing dramatic happened, yet somewhere along the way, you started shrinking back from the version of you that used to feel steady and sure. You feel small. I’ve b

I still remember the first time I coached a senior leader who said, “I keep waiting for someone to realize I’m not actually as capable as they think I am.” It struck me, not because it was unusual, but because I’d said the same thing to myself years earlier. Imposter syndrome doesn’t care how experienced or accomplished you are. It can show up right after a promotion, a big presentation, or even after years of proven success. For many of my high-achieving mid-career and execu

For me, it didn’t happen overnight. It showed up in subtle ways: The meetings I dreaded attending. The projects I once loved that now felt heavy. The vision that I once resonated with but felt unclear over time. The growing sense that I was constantly performing, not connecting. As a coach, I see this pattern all the time, especially among mid-career professionals, executives, and neurodiverse individuals who’ve built their success on drive, adaptability, and resilience. That